{"id":1646,"date":"2019-10-21T19:07:58","date_gmt":"2019-10-21T19:07:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/?p=1646"},"modified":"2019-10-21T19:07:58","modified_gmt":"2019-10-21T19:07:58","slug":"is-my-partner-resistant-to-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/is-my-partner-resistant-to-change\/","title":{"rendered":"Is my partner resistant to change?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Persistent resistance to change is the biggest warning sign of a partner that will be difficult to be in a relationship with (Learn more about this in our online singles course, Head Meets Heart)<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Here are some common statements that should sound the alarms that your partner may be resistant to change:<\/p>\n

–<\/strong> I AM WHO I AM, TAKE ME OR LEAVE ME<\/em><\/p>\n

– IF IT’S MEANT TO BE, IT WILL JUST BE<\/em><\/p>\n

– I’VE TRIED EVERYTHING*, THIS IS WHO I AM (*ACTUALLY NOT TRIED MUCH AT ALL)<\/em><\/p>\n

– I’D CHANGE, BUT YOU KEEP DOING XYZ<\/em><\/p>\n

– YOU’RE JUST SENSITIVE, HIGH MAINTENANCE, HAVE TOO HIGH OF EXPECTATIONS, ETC.<\/em><\/p>\n

– RELATIONSHIPS JUST SHOULDN’T REQUIRE THIS MUCH WORK<\/em><\/p>\n

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If you’re noticing frustration in your relationship when it comes to your partner being open to growth and personal change pay attention to:<\/p>\n

-Is there a pattern of defensiveness when it comes to change?<\/p>\n

-Is your partner ever receptive and open to change. When have you noticed this openness?<\/p>\n

The bottom line is, most things can be worked on if partners come to the relationship with a willingness to develop and hear one another out.<\/h3>\n

So, if you notice any of these statements appearing up when you try to address any issues you have in your relationship, think about whether or not this is situational or a pattern.<\/p>\n

It is understandable if someone sometimes<\/em> gets defensive, or sometimes<\/em> doesn’t understand your request for change, BUT if this is a pervasive pattern this is a BIG DEAL.<\/p>\n

If you enjoyed this post, check out our free resource library and my instagram account @MyLoveThinks<\/a>.<\/p>\n

P.S. If you are noticing a pattern of resistance in your partner, it may be time for a big talk. Check out the post on Strategies for Managing Difficult Conversations.<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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