{"id":406,"date":"2016-08-15T17:50:01","date_gmt":"2016-08-15T17:50:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lovethinksblog.com\/?p=406"},"modified":"2016-11-18T06:20:03","modified_gmt":"2016-11-18T06:20:03","slug":"insecure-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/insecure-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Is your relationship making you insecure?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>So we&#8217;ve all been there. I know I&#8217;ve been there before&#8230;in a relationship where you start to wonder why you feel so insecure. In a relationship like this\u00a0you start to constantly question yourself: Am I crazy..I didn&#8217;t think I was&#8230;but maybe I am? Did I make a big deal over nothing? Am I being dramatic? \u00a0I call this feeling of the self-doubt crazies you know feeling like you are insecure in your relationship, but you&#8217;re usually not that insecure (if you can think of something more clever, put it in the comments below). If you start to develop the self-doubt crazies, it\u2019s likely that it\u2019s the relationship making you crazy&#8230;not you.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-1206 size-full lazyload\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/11\/insecure1.jpg\" alt=\"Is your relationship making you insecure?\" width=\"535\" height=\"902\" \/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-1206 size-full lazyload\" src=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/11\/insecure1.jpg\" alt=\"Is your relationship making you insecure?\" width=\"535\" height=\"902\" \/><\/noscript><\/p>\n<p>So most cases of the self-doubt crazies can be summed up by one major issue in the relationship: lack of congruence. Congruence is basically the consistency between what someone says and does. In a relationship like this you will likely find yourself in a situation in which you\u2019ve been wronged but you have accepted some words or gesture that was put out there to smooth over the bad deed.\u00a0 In a relationship with an incongruent partner you will feel impending doom, insecure, confused, and like you\u2019re walking on eggshells. With partners like this it is difficult to confront them because they can typically out-talk you and flip the script, \u201cI can\u2019t believe you\u2019re still upset about last night after all I did for you today. You are so _______.\u201d Fill in the blank: dramatic, needy, hard on me, and the list goes on.\u00a0 No wonder you feel crazy!<\/p>\n<p>Beware of relationships with an incongruent partner. These relationships can send you into a spiral of self-doubt, feeling insecure in your relationship and an overwhelming sense of frustration. If you identify a pattern like this in your present or future relationship it is best to carefully consider whether it is a relationship you stay in. Everyone makes mistakes, everyone has had an incongruent moment but a pattern of incongruence will just drive you crazy.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So we&#8217;ve all been there. I know I&#8217;ve been there before&#8230;in a relationship where you start to wonder why you feel so insecure. 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