{"id":4248,"date":"2022-03-30T04:00:50","date_gmt":"2022-03-30T04:00:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/?p=4248"},"modified":"2022-03-24T22:54:45","modified_gmt":"2022-03-24T22:54:45","slug":"back-down-fight-part2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/back-down-fight-part2\/","title":{"rendered":"Episode 6: When to back down from a fight Part 2"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"4248\" class=\"elementor elementor-4248\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-section-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-20f47ef5 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"20f47ef5\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-7a16e079\" data-id=\"7a16e079\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-624a36fc elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"624a36fc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/love-thinks-podcast\/id1612359256\">APPLE |<\/a>\u00a0<a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/2ygfDmFmsTtL3mjqw4gZ21\">SPOTIFY |<\/a>\u00a0<a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.stitcher.com\/podcast\/love-thinks-podcast\">STITCHER<\/a><\/h1><div id=\"buzzsprout-player-10298856\">\u00a0<\/div><p><script src=\"https:\/\/www.buzzsprout.com\/1945506\/10298856-when-to-back-down-from-a-fight-part-2.js?container_id=buzzsprout-player-10298856&amp;player=small\" type=\"text\/javascript\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">At one time or another many of us have felt that we either backed down from a fight too soon or pushed too strongly.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">In part two of this episode we explore <em>how to make the decision<\/em> of whether or not to back down from a fight. \u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">The main takeaways from this episode include<\/span>:<\/p><h3><br style=\"caret-color: #000000; color: #000000;\" \/><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-4307 lazyload\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5.png\" alt=\"when to back down from a fight \" width=\"350\" height=\"525\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5-200x300.png 200w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5-535x803.png 535w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5-768x1152.png 768w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5-624x936.png 624w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5-600x900.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 350px) 100vw, 350px\" \/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-4307 lazyload\" src=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5.png\" alt=\"when to back down from a fight \" width=\"350\" height=\"525\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5-200x300.png 200w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5-535x803.png 535w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5-768x1152.png 768w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5-624x936.png 624w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5-600x900.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 350px) 100vw, 350px\" \/><\/noscript><\/h3><h3><strong>1. Consider your style<\/strong><\/h3><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">When it comes to relationships, personal insight is almost always beneficial. This is incredibly true when it comes to knowing when to back down or push through a fight.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Take a moment and reflect on your personal style or tendency. Do you tend to &#8220;sacrifice for the sake of peace&#8221; or do you tend to be a &#8220;win at all costs&#8221; type of person?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">If you imagine general tendencies or style on a continuum, it can be helpful to work toward moving toward the center, which is a balanced approach to arguing. \u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Meaning, you back down when things seem like a little deal or when you &#8220;agree to disagree&#8221; and you push through and assert yourself on bigger deals.<\/span><\/p><h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>2. Consider your content<\/strong><\/span><\/h3><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">The content of the discussion matters when deciding whether to back down or not from a fight. \u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">If you find that you are building resentment or are regularly triggered about a particular content area, it may be time to assert yourself or assert yourself more strongly.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">If the content is minor and you can agree to disagree or you can abandon this area without building resentment or the relationship being harmed, this may be a time to back down.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">The bottom line is that if your relationship is deteriorating because of a particular area of concern, this is a clue to continue to push forward in this area and work toward a resolution that feels better.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong style=\"font-family: Futura, sans-serif; font-size: 20px;\">3.\u00a0Consider your relationship<\/strong><\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">The closeness, level of trust, and commitment to maintain a relationship all matter when determining whether to back down from a fight or not.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">If you have a high level of trust in someone, you may feel more secure asserting yourself because you know that they will consider your heart or intention.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">If you have a low level of trust or confidence in someone, it may not feel as safe asserting yourself or continuing a discussion around a particular content area.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Also, your level of commitment to maintaining a relationship will matter when you decide whether or not to back down from a fight.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Your commitment to making it work with your partner, may be different than your commitment to making it work with a new friend.<\/span><\/p><h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>What else is there?<\/strong><\/span><\/h3><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">To learn more, and hear about what may be necessary to maintain a relationship with someone you &#8220;agree to disagree&#8221; with make sure to listen to the full episode.<\/span><\/p><p>We hope you listen, subscribe, and review the podcast. \u00a0<a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/relationship-podcast\/\">If you want to apply to be a guest on the podcast, we&#8217;d love to hear from you.<\/a><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>APPLE |\u00a0SPOTIFY |\u00a0STITCHER At one time or another many of us have felt that we either backed down from a fight too soon or pushed&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4249,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[81,248],"tags":[155,262,93,251,250,261],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v20.8 - 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