{"id":4322,"date":"2022-04-13T02:00:51","date_gmt":"2022-04-13T02:00:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/?p=4322"},"modified":"2022-04-12T19:06:26","modified_gmt":"2022-04-12T19:06:26","slug":"mental-load-married","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/mental-load-married\/","title":{"rendered":"Episode 8: How a married couple shares the mental load"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"4322\" class=\"elementor elementor-4322\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-section-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-49b3f151 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"49b3f151\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6cf7b18d\" data-id=\"6cf7b18d\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-662f2ff7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"662f2ff7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/love-thinks-podcast\/id1612359256\">APPLE |<\/a>\u00a0<a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/2ygfDmFmsTtL3mjqw4gZ21\">SPOTIFY |<\/a>\u00a0<a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.stitcher.com\/podcast\/love-thinks-podcast\">STITCHER<\/a><\/h1><div id=\"buzzsprout-player-10423994\">\u00a0<\/div><p><script src=\"https:\/\/www.buzzsprout.com\/1945506\/10423994-how-a-married-couple-shares-the-mental-load.js?container_id=buzzsprout-player-10423994&#038;player=small\" type=\"text\/javascript\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">We are continuing to focus on this vital aspect of personal and relational health: the \u201cmental load.\u201d In this podcast, the second of three on the topic, Dr. John and Dr. Morgan sat down with Charity and Ted to explore how they deal with their mental loads. They have been married 20 years and are in the hectic season of raising four kids, ages 9-16. Although no one is perfect, they are a wonderful couple who were encouraged by friends and family to write a book about their marriage<\/span>\u00a0<span style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"color: #ff0000;\"><a style=\"color: #ff0000;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Staying-Do-Committed-Connected-Lifetime-ebook\/dp\/B07L1GP2L6\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">(Staying I Do)<\/a><\/span><span style=\"caret-color: #000000; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt;\"><span style=\"color: #ff0000;\">\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"color: #000000;\">because their relationship modeled what a loving marriage should look like&#8230; mutual admiration and support, especially in this key area of the mental load.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p><p><strong style=\"color: #191919; font-family: Futura, sans-serif; font-size: 18px;\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter  wp-image-4330 lazyload\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/Copy-of-Copy-of-podcast-pinterest-template.png\" alt=\"couple shares the mental load\" width=\"297\" height=\"445\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/Copy-of-Copy-of-podcast-pinterest-template.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/Copy-of-Copy-of-podcast-pinterest-template-200x300.png 200w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/Copy-of-Copy-of-podcast-pinterest-template-535x803.png 535w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/Copy-of-Copy-of-podcast-pinterest-template-768x1152.png 768w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/Copy-of-Copy-of-podcast-pinterest-template-624x936.png 624w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/Copy-of-Copy-of-podcast-pinterest-template-600x900.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 297px) 100vw, 297px\" \/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter  wp-image-4330 lazyload\" src=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/Copy-of-Copy-of-podcast-pinterest-template.png\" alt=\"couple shares the mental load\" width=\"297\" height=\"445\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/Copy-of-Copy-of-podcast-pinterest-template.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/Copy-of-Copy-of-podcast-pinterest-template-200x300.png 200w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/Copy-of-Copy-of-podcast-pinterest-template-535x803.png 535w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/Copy-of-Copy-of-podcast-pinterest-template-768x1152.png 768w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/Copy-of-Copy-of-podcast-pinterest-template-624x936.png 624w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/Copy-of-Copy-of-podcast-pinterest-template-600x900.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 297px) 100vw, 297px\" \/><\/noscript><\/strong><\/p><p><strong style=\"color: #191919; font-family: Futura, sans-serif; font-size: 18px;\">The main takeaways from this episode include:<\/strong><\/p><h3><strong>1.Attack the mental load as a team<\/strong><\/h3><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">The mental load is most often presented as a women\u2019s invisible running list of responsibilities, tasks, and concerns because the wife\/mother almost always has a much more extensive and overwhelming mental load than her husband, literally expanding every detail of family and home life. However, successful marriages acknowledge both mental loads in ways that blur some of these individual differences with a greater sense of support and ownership. You could say that a couple creates a third, \u201ccorporate\u201d mental load in their marriage that they both share, even though the specifics are still being managed by each partner.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">This begins with an attitude of mutual caretaking in a marriage relationship. Couples must cultivate this genuine interest in each other, with an openness to step into the mental load of their partner.<\/span><\/p><p><strong><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Here are some questions to check out your attitude.<\/span><\/strong><\/p><ul><li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>How often am I thinking about what my partner is dealing with?<\/em><\/span><\/li><li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>Do I take sufficient time to attempt to reconstruct in my mind the mental load of my partner?\u00a0<\/em><\/span><\/li><li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>How does my partner view my attitude toward their mental load and all the tasks they are managing?<\/em><\/span><\/li><li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>How accurately could I explain my partner\u2019s mental load?<\/em><\/span><\/li><li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>How responsible do I feel for the tasks and concerns that are in my partner\u2019s mental load?<\/em><\/span><\/li><li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>Can I honestly say that I have an attitude of \u201cservitude\u201d\u2014where I happily try and serve my partner and my family?<\/em><\/span><\/li><\/ul><h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>2. Practice collecting data from\u00a0your marriage and family<\/strong><\/span><\/h3><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Women tend to be the ultimate data collectors. \u00a0They know all the things, where it&#8217;s kept, who likes what, and who needs what. So this is a challenge that is mostly for their partners.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Think of engaging in tasks and activities that both reduce your partner\u2019s mental load while also expanding your understanding of your family. <\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">For example, Ted was able to drive his four kids to school several days a week and used that time to collect intel on what each one was dealing with that in their schoolwork, friendships, and extra-curricular activities. This was a way he could step into his wife\u2019s mental load about their children without depending on Charity to explain all the details. <\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">He took the initiative to learn and then acted on what he learned by becoming more involved with his kids!<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Here are some ideas:<\/strong><\/span><\/p><ul><li><em><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Pay attention to all the \u201clittle things\u201d your partner does to run the home and take care of the kids? This includes straightening up things like the pillows on the couch, the dishes throughout the house, the clothes, shoes, papers, and other belongings that need to be put back in their proper \u201chomes\u201d\u2014add up how many times your partner attends to these things and various needs of the kids. <\/span><\/em><\/li><li><em><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Imagine that your partner had to deploy for a month and be absent from your home. What details would you have to take on that you typically do not worry about?<\/span><\/em><\/li><li><em><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Engage with members of your family like a detective looking for clues. Search and find the repeating needs and wants they seem to have, and then make a plan for how you can help meet them.<\/span><\/em><\/li><\/ul><h3><strong>3. Balance taking steps of informed\u00a0initiative with making requests for support<\/strong><\/h3><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">A common sore point with many women is when they hear their partner say, \u201cIf you want me to help, just ask.\u201d <\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Although that partner believes he is being approachable and willing to help, there is the subtle message that he has NO responsibilities except those that his partner explicitly delegates. It assumes that everything is her job until she solicits his involvement. This often pushes the buttons of frustration and leads to arguments that do not fix the division of responsibilities between partners. <\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">However, when the first two suggestions (<em>attack the mental load as a team<\/em> and <em>practice data collection<\/em>) are being implemented, then approaching your partner to request support feels much better because it is within the context of that partner frequently initiating involvement based on their own observations and loving interest.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Here are some ways to build a better balance of initiating with requesting.<\/span><\/p><ul><li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>Know that your partner is not a mind reader, and if they are open to helping, focus on their willingness to help.<\/em><\/span><\/li><li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>Talk together as a couple about how you would like to be approached for support, and how you would like to request involvement from your partner.<\/em><\/span><\/li><li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>Regularly express your appreciation for both what you partner does and how they support you in your mental load.<\/em><\/span><\/li><li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>Have frequent check-ins about what is on your mind&#8230; what you are covering that day and what tasks are relevant to both partners.<\/em><\/span><\/li><li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>Be willing to quickly forgive and let go of any misunderstandings or hurt feelings, and get back to being a team, working to out-do each other in support and love.<\/em><\/span><\/li><\/ul><h3><strong>What else is there?<\/strong><\/h3><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">To learn more, and hear about what may be necessary to maintain a relationship with someone you &#8220;agree to disagree&#8221; with make sure to listen to the full episode.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">We hope you listen, subscribe, and review the podcast.<\/span> \u00a0<a style=\"color: #ff0000;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/relationship-podcast\/\">If you want to apply to be a guest on the podcast, we&#8217;d love to hear from you.<\/a><\/p><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Staying-Do-Committed-Connected-Lifetime-ebook\/dp\/B07L1GP2L6\">Check out Charity and Ted&#8217;s book,<em> Staying I Do.<\/em><\/a><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>APPLE |\u00a0SPOTIFY |\u00a0STITCHER We are continuing to focus on this vital aspect of personal and relational health: the \u201cmental load.\u201d In this podcast, the second&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":4324,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[49,248],"tags":[157,264,251,265,263,250,261],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v20.8 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Episode 8: How a married couple shares the mental load - Good Dating Book<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Dr. John and Dr. Morgan sat down with Charity and Ted to explore how they deal with their mental loads. 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