{"id":4772,"date":"2022-05-17T22:14:13","date_gmt":"2022-05-17T22:14:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/?p=4772"},"modified":"2022-05-18T22:50:26","modified_gmt":"2022-05-18T22:50:26","slug":"marriageafterkids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/marriageafterkids\/","title":{"rendered":"Episode 13: When partners become parents, marriage after kids with Tricia and Dave"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"4772\" class=\"elementor elementor-4772\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-section-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-49b3f151 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"49b3f151\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6cf7b18d\" data-id=\"6cf7b18d\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-662f2ff7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"662f2ff7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/love-thinks-podcast\/id1612359256\">APPLE |<\/a>\u00a0<a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/2ygfDmFmsTtL3mjqw4gZ21\">SPOTIFY |<\/a>\u00a0<a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.stitcher.com\/podcast\/love-thinks-podcast\">STITCHER<\/a><\/span><\/h1><div id=\"buzzsprout-player-10635762\">\u00a0<\/div><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><script src=\"https:\/\/www.buzzsprout.com\/1945506\/10635762-going-from-partners-to-parents-marriage-after-kids-with-tricia-and-dave.js?container_id=buzzsprout-player-10635762&#038;player=small\" type=\"text\/javascript\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/span><br \/><span style=\"color: #000000;\">In this episode of the Dating Book podcast, Dr. John Van Epp and Dr. Morgan Cutlip sit with Tricia Fox and Dave Ransom who are a married couple of two young children.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Dave and Tricia share their experience transitioning from a couple to parents. They share relatable moments and struggles and also how they navigated through growing stronger and more connected.<\/span><\/p><h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Some of the main takeaways include:<\/span><\/h3><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-4776 lazyload\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/podcast-pinterest-2.png\" alt=\"marriage after kids\" width=\"329\" height=\"494\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/podcast-pinterest-2.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/podcast-pinterest-2-200x300.png 200w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/podcast-pinterest-2-535x803.png 535w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/podcast-pinterest-2-768x1152.png 768w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/podcast-pinterest-2-624x936.png 624w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/podcast-pinterest-2-600x900.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 329px) 100vw, 329px\" \/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-4776 lazyload\" src=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/podcast-pinterest-2.png\" alt=\"marriage after kids\" width=\"329\" height=\"494\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/podcast-pinterest-2.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/podcast-pinterest-2-200x300.png 200w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/podcast-pinterest-2-535x803.png 535w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/podcast-pinterest-2-768x1152.png 768w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/podcast-pinterest-2-624x936.png 624w, https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/podcast-pinterest-2-600x900.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 329px) 100vw, 329px\" \/><\/noscript><\/span><\/p><h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">1.You may struggle to connect with your child immediately<\/span><\/h3><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Dave shared his shame and struggle around feeling a lack of immediate connection with their children when they were first born. He normalized something that is a common experience for parents which is that when you, your partner, and your life are undergoing such a massive transformation, it can be hard to experience the joy and connection immediately.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Dave shared how his shame started to dissipate after confiding in a friend who had the same experience.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Listeners should know that this lack of immediate connection is so common among parents. Birth can be traumatic, having a colicky infant can be draining, and the adjustment to becoming a parent can be jarring.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">2.Be generous to one another<\/span><\/h3><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">One of the most beautiful parts of the episode was how Tricia and Dave shared about how they both held space for one another and their experiences.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Tricia was experiencing postpartum depression following a traumatic birth and Dave was struggling with his own issues transitioning into parenthood. They both allowed opportunity for one another to be heard and supported each other in the ways they could given their own feelings of depletion.<\/span><\/p><h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">3.Call on skills and support<\/span><\/h3><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Tricia and Dave shared about how they enlisted professional help and attended both individual and couple&#8217;s therapy.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">They learned that they could develop the skill of offering grace to one another. And a renewed perspective that the bumps and struggles felt during a transition don&#8217;t mean that the relationship is forever doomed, but rather that they can use these difficult times to build resilience in their relationship and deepen their knowing in one another.<\/span><\/p><h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>What else is there?<\/strong><\/span><\/h3><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Tricia is a singer-songwriter and wrote an entire album about her experience becoming \u00a0mother. Tricia and Dave also wrote a duet about this time in their marriage. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/triciafoxmusic\/\">You can learn more about Tricia on her Instagram<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/track\/2kkKXRsqOUwtvFlMaKax06?si=vrVioA5XQXWco9IOHYTLuw\"> or listen to their song here.<\/a><\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">To learn more, and hear about what may be necessary to maintain a relationship with someone you &#8220;agree to disagree&#8221; with make sure to listen to the full episode.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">We hope you listen, subscribe, and review the podcast. \u00a0<a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mylovethinks.com\/relationship-podcast\/\">If you want to apply to be a guest on the podcast, we&#8217;d love to hear from you.<\/a><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>APPLE |\u00a0SPOTIFY |\u00a0STITCHER \u00a0 In this episode of the Dating Book podcast, Dr. John Van Epp and Dr. Morgan Cutlip sit with Tricia Fox and&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":4774,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[248],"tags":[281,280,279,251,278,250],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v20.8 - 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